Free Online Dating – Is it Really Free?

There is a saying “You get what you pay for” and while high price doesn’t mean high quality anymore, free still means questionable quality. Free online dating is just that, free, and there are a lot of risks involved. There are decent honest people using free online dating services all over the world. At the same time there are scam artists, perverts, and people who lie on every question in their profile using free online dating services. You can get this same mixture of people in the night club that you cruise looking for dates. Your chances of finding the decent people in the world of free online dating are about the same as finding the decent people hanging out in the hot clubs.

First free online dating sites do not screen people. Some ask a lot of detailed questions and then review each profile in hopes of weeding out the bad eggs before they can access their site. Others are simply a worldwide classifieds section. Some may offer a little less risk but neither offer screening. The guy down the street that creeps you out may say he is from Europe and his profile picture may be of a guy on a gondola. The lady at your office that you can’t stand may be Miss Perfect profile right down to the long blond hair that doesn’t look anything like her in reality. The point is no one from the free online dating site has actually met this person so there is a chance that they are nothing like their profile or picture.

Second online dating sites do not perform background checks. The person may be fairly honest in answering all their questions – from jail. Some people could be using free online dating sites to scam others out of their money and even if they have been previously convicted, they can still be on your online dating site. Some people could be on their trying to collect pictures of others people’s children or looking for people with children for perverted reasons. No one is going to know, no one is going to highlight these facts for you because no one at the dating site knows. Background checks are not preformed so you are walking into the situation blind. Granted no one at your local club is performing background checks either so your chances of meeting an unsavory person are about the same between your club and the free online dating site.

The third risk in free online dating sites is that no one is checking ID’s. At your local club people are at least checking ID’s and only good fakes allow the young ones in. But what about you’re online dating site? With no one checking ID’s who knows what age that person is. An 80 year old could be reliving their thirties online or a 13 year old could be looking to just mess with members of the site. You have no idea what you are getting into; at least at a club you can see the person and decide their age for yourself.

The potential for identify theft is a fourth risk in free online dating. Most sites that gather your personal information are secure but that won’t stop a determined hacker. In addition you run the risk of telling a stranger a lot of information about yourself. While you believe that you are getting closer to this person, they have already started stealing your identity. People that meet online tend to talk about more personal things sooner than they would if they were sitting at the club talking. If free online dating sites had background checks, they could screen out the people who have already been busted for identity theft. This would at least reduce the risk of identity theft a bit.

The fifth risk of free online dating is that no actual person from the dating site has met the members on the site. They don’t know who would be a good match for you. They just allow you to browse thousands of profiles for people who may or may not match your personality. Honestly, personality is probably one of the last things you find out about someone you meet in the club but online dating hinges on the ability to personality match with others. At least when your friends set you up on a blind date, it is with someone they have met and believe will be good for you. No one who knows you knows all the other people on a free online dating site. No actually person can recommend someone that they believe would match your personality. When you sign up for a free online dating site, you are flying blind but maybe that brings its own level of excitement for you.

Free online dating sites are a great idea but they are only a little better then going out to the club and hoping to find someone. The vast number of people, real or fake, on free dating sites reaches the thousands. You get to wade blindly through all these profiles hoping to stumble on the one who is a perfect match for you. But even with all these risks and insurmountable odds, people have found their mates in free online dating sites or through a person that they met on a free online dating site.

So where does that leave you? There are other options, for example matchmakers. A matchmaker meets you and every other person that they think may be good for you. They narrow the field down to people that you may actually be interested in based on real information. It’s not to say that a good scam artist isn’t going to make it onto a matchmakers list, they wouldn’t be good if they couldn’t. It is just a way to decrease some of the risks that are associated with free online dating and save you time in the mate hunting process.

In the end dating is a game of testing others in hopes to find the one person that fits with you. Unfortunately some people get hurt feelings and other people get taken advantage of during this process. However you find your date, in a free online dating site or from a matchmaker, remember to stay safe and enjoy yourself.

Magic Power Coffee – The Secret of a Great Sex Life

Everybody dreams of a good sex life and very few actually are able to achieve it. People keep questioning about the secret to a good sex life but few are able to find it. Now, the cat is out of the bag and everybody can have a satisfactory sex life. Magic power coffee, is the answer to all your problems regarding your sex life. You can enhance your sexual desires with this 100% natural product. The side effect of using this product is limited to a satisfied and magical sex life.

Magic Power Coffee is a blend of the natural herbs, minerals and vitamins and this helps in enhancing our sexual experience. This product is a result of extensive research and examination. The company blends these ingredients in keeping with the highest standards of quality. The natural herbs included in each cup of you magical coffee is:

Horny Goat Weed- horny goat weed is also popularly known as Epimedium. This is a small shrub that has broad and heart shaped leaves, which almost look like ivy. As stated in a legend, the sexual power of this shrub was determined by a Chinese goat shepherd, who noticed increased sexual activity in the herd, after they had eaten this herb. This herb is also known as “Fairy Wings” or “Yang Tonic” and has a warm and excited effect. This herb is commonly utilized as an aphrodisiac and relieves the exual dysfunction in both the genders. Taking this herb will produce the hormone androgen. Icariin is an active ingredient in horny goat weed and increases the level of nitric oxide that relaxes the smooth muscles. Men suffering from impotency and low sperm count, and women with decreased motivation towards sex benefit from this herb.

Barbary Wolfberry Fruit or Goji Berry- these wolfberries originate from the traditional Chinese medicine and the ancient Chinese doctors believe that taking this medicine improves the eyesight, protects liver, improves the immunity system and the most important of all boosts the sperm production. Reduced sexual function is a trouble that can happen anytime and to anybody and this can trigger depression. These berries increase the production of testosterone and thus decrease your stress. The Chinese also refer to these berries are a sexual tonic. Taking this herb will enhance your energy and power and provide a harmony to all the functions of the body.

American Ginseng- the Southern Illinois University School of Medicine carried out a study on this herb and in 2002 declared that ginseng enhances the libido and sexual performance. Ginseng does not bring about hormonal changes in the body but affects the central nervous system directly. Ginseng aids in penile erection in the males. Ginseng is an ancient remedy with direct effect.

Tired of using the chemical products that brags a lot without providing any solutions? Feeling depressed? Now you can relieve your stress! Here is a product that is all natural and is known to be very beneficial! Magic powder coffee is really a magical solution to your problem.

Same Sex Relationships and the Teenage Years

Adolescence is a period of developmental changes. The most noticeable changes are physical. Girls begin to grow breasts and have a regular menstrual cycle. Boys begin to develop facial hairs, have a deep voice and begin to produce semen. So for the first time in his or her life the teenager begins to wonder what is happening to him or her. I encourage parents to be closer to their children at this time to answer their questions, to support them and to allay their fears and concerns. One of the most important concerns is their sexuality. Most teenagers would fantasize only about the opposite sex while a few teenagers may consider same-sex relationship as an option. For those who think about same-sex relationship as an option I encourage you to give it some time and seek professional help before making a decision. The truth is that you are not developed enough to make a decision about your sexuality. Meanwhile you may have friends of the opposite sex not ‘girl friend’ or ‘boy friend’ for the reason that you are not yet an adult and you do not want to complicate your life at this time.

The way to manage your sexual fantasies is to concentrate on what interests you like music, drawing, computing, entrepreneurship, public speaking, science, leadership, or writing. These creative and investigative outlets are more stimulating than sex if you could give them a chance to manifest in your life. At the proper age get married and raise your family in love, care and happiness. I am not a professional but I do not think I need to be one in other to guide a teenager that is battling with his or her sexuality because I am a parent. A family member of about 19 years old once posted on Facebook that he is gay. In consultation with my wife we advised him to remove the posting and he did. Our reasoning was that he was not old enough to determine his sexuality. We found out later that it was his way of coping with a recent breakup with his girlfriend. Today he is a father.

Your sexuality is very important. It is not something to be taken lightly. You could bring children into the world and that requires responsibility, compassion, love and the proper values to raise the child. I know society has made sexuality seem commonplace but for you it is still a sacred event and I encourage you to plan and prepare with your eyes open and your reason intact. If you take it lightly with your eyes closed, it could destroy your life. But if you understand it, prepare for it, plan for it, fall in love and get married, you could have a fulfilled life. These are the same thoughts I share with our children and I encourage you to take them seriously. Our world needs moral leaders and I am counting on you to be one of them!

If you are having sexual problems and you think that you might be gay or you are thinking about sex all the time, please by all means do not keep it to your self. Confide in your parents so that they may get you the proper help that you need. However if you are constantly thinking about sexual pleasures at an early age I encourage you to think more about your interests. There is a time for everything and your time for marital bliss will come. For now it is better to build your future by developing your talents and gifts than to waste it on sensual fantasies. But whatever you are feeling it must be part of your body. If it is part of your body others have also felt it and dealt with it so there is nothing to be ashamed about it but the sooner you get professional help the better you will feel about your body and your life..

I first met a gay person in my sociology class at Indiana, Pennsylvania in the eighties. At the time I did not know what to make of it. I could not believe that anyone would prefer the same-sex as a life partner and coming from Nigeria did not prepare me for the experience. For me it was natural to be attracted to the opposite sex and that any other tendency was abnormal. But after reading more and more of these stories I have come to accept that we may be connected on a spiritual level but our tendencies might be entirely different. However, my caution centers on respect and human dignity. Let your relationship be based on Love and love alone and if you are a bisexual decide and define where you belong.

For those who oppose homosexuality because it is a sin against their Gods, as written in their sacred texts I encourage you to do more research on the subject, involve your heart and make an effort to understand the subject. In this way you may react with love when it happens in your family! My take on Sacred Texts is that you must be really naive to think that your sacred text is the real word of God or the only sacred text. The truth is that sacred texts are more like the word of a father who is about to die and decides to write down his thoughts and experiences on how to live a good life as a guide to his son. But my dear friend, God is not about to die and surely God is not dead! God is within your heart and if you really want real answers consult your heart, not books!

There are those who think that homosexuality is an illness and some practitioners have healing clinics to turn homosexuals into “normal” human beings. Many of the clinics are organized by religious organizations because according to their belief homosexuality is an abomination toward their God. In this case it boils down to if you believe in their God or a different God. However this is your life and your life alone. If you are using homosexuality to cover up something else like my family member seek professional help immediately. Further if you are shy before girls and are using homosexuality as an escape you are mistaken. There is nothing to fear or worry about in your relationship with a girl. Just be yourself and your girl will appear at the proper time or whenever you are ready. Lastly if you know that you are indeed a gay person so be it! Here is a quote from Sigmund Freud:

“Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation, it cannot be classified as an illness.” Sigmund Freud (1935).

Finally for those who want more information on the subject I encourage you to read about homosexual behavior in animals. The study is not conclusive but that did not prevent the American Psychiatric Association and other groups for citing it in the brief to the United States Supreme Court in Lawrence Vs. Texas which removed sodomy laws from 14 states. In conclusion what is at stake is not really about homosexuality but about freedom, individual freedom within the limits of our laws and if you support individual freedom learn more from the following quote originated by Martin Niemöller:

They came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew.
Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist.
Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant.
Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up.

Thank you for your time and Make each moment you live a moment of love, peace and happiness for yourself and for everyone you meet.